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Looking for Hope? Take Courage! It’s not Just You.

How are you doing?Hopeless-Hope-Discouragement-Atmosphere

Have you been feeling like nothing is working, nothing will work, it’s all hopeless and you might as well quit? Everything’s overwhelming and just too hard.

Yeah…it’s been going around, or rather in the atmosphere.

I got hit with it pretty hard earlier this year and thought it was just me. I just tried working harder to see if I couldn’t push through and get ‘er done anyway. I pushed myself until I hit a wall…

Not literally, fortunately. But, thankfully a friend and life coach brought it to my attention. I got off the hamster wheel, and the rest has been delightfully healing! I started to realize that lots of other people I know have been similarly struggling. Oh, the details are different, but there’s this same spiral downwards that sucks the life and hope out of you. I just talked to someone else today who is going through a similar thing.

It seems to be attacking people especially in the realm of destiny. That thing that normally is your greatest gift and joy – has become a burden and a drag. It’s too hard. It’s never going to get better. You should just quit, right?

Absolutely not!!!

Don’t let the lies win.

Hope Comes in the Morning The odd thing about this particular attack, is that it seems to be able to blind your eyes to the truth about your situation. You’re not able to see the progress that’s been made, or how well you’re really doing. It’s the craziest thing… I looked at the same black and white numbers on a page and saw failure, when they don’t say that at all – I’m actually doing quite well. But I couldn’t see it.

At least, I couldn’t see it until I got away from busyness and into rest. Then the light of hope began to dawn.

So, how do you get off the hamster wheel?

  • Realize you’re on it, but that there’s hope. It doesn’t always have to be like this. You can make a change.
  • Start somewhere. I gave myself permission to just rest and not do the hundred projects that are on my list. The stuff that had to be done, I did those, but many things don’t have to be done now or at all. They would be nice, but they aren’t essential. I cut it all out. I set a timer on my phone to remind myself when my work day was over – being self-employed is delightful, but I’m the worst boss I’ve ever had! I’m not always successful at “clocking out”, but I have been better at picking up books to read for pleasure, which is one of the things I love to do.
  • I created a timeline of events in my life, and discovered that there were a lot of pretty intense things that have happened pretty regularly. Some good, some not so good, but the intensity itself is a stressor. It was a revelation! And, it also helped me to see that I had good reason to need rest and to make sure I’ve processed these things well. It’s so easy to pile something on top of other things and assume we can handle it until the proverbial straw brings it all crashing around us. Acceptance of my path and the events in my life as significant has been freeing. I don’t have a perfect life. I have a great one, but not perfect. I can give myself grace for the imperfections along the way. Draw a line and start walking backward on it, making note of all the things that have happened, good and bad. There’s probably a good reason why you need the rest. There’s a good reason why you feel the way you do.
  • I’ve addressed physical needs with recommended supplements and better nutrition – along with the rest I mentioned above. You might check with your health care provider and see if there is anything that you can do to support yourself and your healing physically. Body, soul, and spirit are all intertwined. Disruptions in one area will often have an effect on the others as well.
  • To conquer the overwhelm, I’ve found a few things helpful. Getting clarity on what really needs to be done, and not just what I want to have done is key. Then, setting a timer for X number of minutes, or a definite number of something can be helpful. Be sure and stop when you say you’re going to, though… Have integrity with yourself. If the time limit is flexible, then let yourself know that you can continue to go if you want, but don’t say you’re going to quit if you’re not going to. Break up tasks into bite-sized, do-able chunks and do one a day. Sometimes you have time constraints, but often they are self-imposed and could be more flexible.
  • Celebrate your successes… A couple years ago, I wrote this post on my other blog: I’m Winning! How to Celebrate Your Way to Success. It was, and is life changing…but I’m still not very good at it. I’ve decided that I’m going to do an “Achievement Board” or something like that. I’m working on making a collage of all the things that I’ve done that I’m proud of, or that I should be. I may include things like places I’ve been, nice things people have said about me, goals I’ve achieved, the books I’ve written, etc. Like a vision board, but looking back at what I’ve accomplished, and not forward at what I hope to.
  • Reach out to a safe person to help you talk through what you’re doing if you need to, I did. Break out those prophetic words that talk about what you’re called to do. Scour the Scriptures for all the things God says about you. Look for the hope that’s there. Grab onto all of the joy. We tend to see what we look for.

Freedom Hope HoplessI still have a ways to go to recover my physical strength, but I’ll tell you this: my joy and hope are back. I didn’t even realize how joyless I had become, until the joy started coming back. My job now is to continue to get my strength back and to not lose sight of the lessons I’ve learned; to continue to allow for rest and relaxation so that hopelessness can’t get a foothold again.

As I said at the beginning, hopelessness is in the atmosphere – which means that it’s like a broadcast that your spirit and soul hear that your ears don’t. It sounds like your voice, but it’s not…it’s the enemy – the one who’s job it is to steal, kill, and destroy. If you like, you can pray the following prayer over yourself or your friends and family. Or pray one like it. The exact words don’t matter as much as being aware of what’s coming at you and knowing you have the authority to send it back. Feel free to add in there anything that you’re sensing.

I see you hopelessness and overwhelm. You are not mine, and I refuse to partner with you. I break you off of me and I revoke any agreement that I’ve made with you. I cast you to the cross of Jesus, and I place the blood of Jesus between all of that and me. I reverse and correct all effects of this hopelessness and overwhelm, and I ask you Father, to fill me with your hope and courage. Please give me wisdom and revelation to know how to move forward in the path where you’ve placed me. I receive Your truth that there is always hope, and that You have given me a good destiny that I can move forward in and towards. I thank you for your peace, hope, and joy. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Some other things that you might find helpful to gain new hope, and to reinforce the hope that you gain:

Tomorrow Flower Essence Hope

My friend Seneca at Freedom-Flowers has a “Tomorrow” flower essence that rebuilds lost hope and eases anxiety about the future. Helps you to receive insight about the path you are on and helps you to grab hold of opportunities by shutting down cynicism and apathy. You just put a few drops in whatever you’re drinking, or under your tongue.

New Hope Healing Frequencies Music EMDR

Another friend, Del at Healing Frequencies Music has a new album out called New Hope. I’ve been listening to it softly at night, but all day every day might be fabulous! It’s also available on iTunes and will hopefully be up on Amazon soon!

If you need or want some one on one help, grab a session with me here.

For more blogs from friends about hope and feeling hopeless, check out (I’ll add them as I find them, so check back for more!):

Flower Essences for Disappointment and Hopelessness

A Vision of Hope – Rebecca Clayton





As Your Soul Prospers

What does it look like when a soul prospers?

I’ve been contemplating that question for a while now. Prosperity has rather mixed reviews in Christian circles. I just read a headline accusing someone of being a “prosperity gospel” preacher. I’m not overly familiar with that preacher and the who doesn’t matter as much as the interesting dichotomy that we have on the topic of money – which is what most people jump to when they hear the word prosper.

On the one hand, there are those who give up all their earthly possessions and often live in poverty level conditions to follow God. Their poverty has become a badge of honor and a sign of their holiness. And then there are the prosperity gospel people who declare that God is the giver of wealth, and having lots of money is a sign of God’s pleasure and favor with you. It’s no wonder that each extreme considers the other heretical.

Here’s the thing – and is where both camps may unite and call me the heretic – you can Money Prospering Successfulfind Biblical support for both positions. God often demonstrated his favor on others by giving them wealth as well as giving them the skills and abilities to create and acquire wealth, and He has also called various people to give up everything and follow him without a visible means of support. I don’t want to get into all of that here – suffice it to say it’s enough to make me question either extreme.

But if your soul is prospering does that mean money? I don’t think it does. And in this case, we have simplified a word and stripped it of a greater meaning that we would do well to regain. Kind of like the word shalom, which we have nearly neutered to peace – but that’s a topic for another day.

Beloved, I pray that in all respects you may prosper and be in good health, just as your soul prospers.

3 John 1:2 NASB

This is the verse that keeps weaving through my thoughts. John is writing his friend Gaius, and this is how he begins his letter to him. It had been a while since I read this little book, and I think I may hang out here for a while – but for now let’s focus on this prayer that Gaius would prosper even as his soul prospers… The word that he uses here, transliterated euodoo means the following:

  1. to grant a prosperous and expeditious journey, to lead by a direct and easy way

  2. to grant a successful issue, to cause to prosper

  3. to prosper, be successful

Much more depth than just have an excess of cash, right?

In ALL respects, he says. I like to keep things simple – I think all means all. So what would this “all” encompass? It would at least include body, mind, and spirit. It would include those internal things, but also the external. And, yes, I think it includes money. But notice the last, intriguing part of the verse: even as your soul prospers. The word used for soul can also be translated as breath or life force.

Hope Freedom Joy

I propose, that this is a pretty significant key – that the root of our success and prospering in anything is that our soul prospers first. Another verse, the latter part of Matthew 12:34 says that out of the abundance of our heart, our mouth speaks. Again, the more outward expression is dependent on the inward reality.

And this is where the core questions have to be asked, answered, and settled. Is God who he says he is? Who does he say that he is? Who does he say that I am?

Is God a God of abundance and enough?

Is God for me or against me?

Is God helping or hurting me?

Dos God want me to prosper even as my soul prospers?

Soul prosperAs a side note – herein lies the difficulty that many find with the law of attraction, it isn’t that our words don’t have power because they do. It’s that there is too much difference between what you are saying and what your soul believes. If there is a disconnect here – you might manifest something – but it’s not likely to be what you are hoping for unless and until there is greater coherence in your soul. You are free to prosper in all things – as your soul prospers. Look after your soul – it’s pretty powerful!

How do you look after your soul?

You need to heal those inner wounds and believe the truth. And, I’ve got some things that may help:

  • As Your Soul Prospers Soul Prospers Prosperous Flourish Abundance Freedom Healing Classis a self-paced online class specifically designed to help you address lies, self-limiting beliefs, and heart issues relating to your identity, prospering your soul, and being successful in all areas of life.
  • My Freedom Guide can be downloaded for free by signing up for my newsletter. You’ll also receive other emails explaining each item in more depth.
  • I expanded the content even further in my book A Guide to Freedom and included practical application points and guides.
  • If you are noticing a strong family pattern with these issues, then you might find my Generational Healing Class helpful.
  • Prosper Flower Essence – Designed to help you shift mindsets and limiting beliefs about your self and your ability to prosper at the energetic level. My friend Seneca over at Freedom Flowers has other essences that will help with many other areas if there is one in particular that you wish to focus on. Choose one of her Bouquet Blends, or have a Custom Blend made just for you. (She’s working on one to address a prosperous soul particularly, so you might want to keep an eye out for that.)
  • Another friend, Del, has amazing healing music that will also help to shift those negative frequencies. You can listen to samples, download a free MP3, and purchase songs and albums at Healing Frequencies Music.

Grab the tool that you need to help set yourself free from lack and limitations – and access prosperity in all areas as your soul prospers.